4 responses to “Q: Does living together damage a relationship if both want to get married to each other eventually?”

  1. L

    Thank you for this… It’s very enlightening and strengthens my belief against premarital sex.

  2. E

    I noticed that you only focus on the emotional high and never when people have come down off of it. There are actually more recently finished studies that show that while couples who live together before engagement are more likely to divorce or break up, couples who move in together after getting engaged with a strong commitment to being married are actually just as likely to succeed as couples who did not. Now, I think that people should wait until marriage to have sex. However, we live in a society where sometimes money is a real issue.

    Sometimes, to make the chaos of preparing for marriage and planning a wedding much easier, couples move in. It also saves quite a substantial amount of money (especially with a long engagement process). This does not automatically mean that the couple will have sex. I feel as though you are misrepresenting the other point of view. I am NOT saying that living together before marriage is a fantastic idea and that people should go and do it willy nilly. I’m saying that there are valid reasons for those that do after getting engaged and after the “honeymoon phase” of the relationship is over.

  3. M

    I would LOVE to see these studies that you speak of. As you mentioned, the first study, indicating that people who live together are less likely to get married, is absolutely logical. They are choosing not to get married because they are less compatible that they originally thought. The second study you mentioned is of particular interest to me. I would love to see the data that confirms that couples who live together before getting married are more likely to be unfaithful during the marriage. Links would be appreciated!

  4. pyetty

    As for me, i know of a couple that leaved together for eight years before marriage, if they had sex wouldn’t know, and now they are happily married, and the love never deminish

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