Our Definition Determines our Destination
What we believe in marriage determines what we receive in marriage. Paul and Juanita had decided to divorce. Linda and I (Marty) had met with this couple for several months. ...
Shelving Expectations
In 1969, I (Rich) was in seminary, worked full time at a local hospital, and spoke at various churches on the weekends. LouAnna was home each day with our newborn ...
Editing Expectations
It stunned the critics. Despite being dubbed as a low-budget, small-town documentary, October Sky, a movie based on the life of NASA engineer, Homer Hickam, rocketed up the charts. Apparently, ...
Working Through Unreal Expectations
Each of us has expectations that help us formulate and identify satisfaction in our relationships. Bosses have lists for employees; employees have lists for their bosses; friends carry lists for ...
Epic Kiss
Traveling home from the premier of Captain America, our usually quiet, chick-flick inspired daughter-in-law, actually had something to say about the man flick. “Here’s the question of the day” she ...
Dealing with Damaged Trust
It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust.” ~Samuel Johnson She sat at the kitchen table fingering the ...
Messing with Marriage – Jerk Journals
Forgiveness doesn’t journal Alice sped into my (Rich’s) office carrying a Starbuck’s and a notebook. After exchanging pleasantries, I asked how I could help. She opened a journal in which ...
Switching Gears from Immaturity to Maturity in Marriage
John was an angry husband, mostly blind to his behavior. He only had a vague idea of how it affected the people around him—until Cherie pointed it out in a ...
Winning the War of the Worlds
The minute I (Rich) hear the words of the old spiritual, “This World Is Not My Home,” the melody moves from my head to my foot and it starts tapping ...
Start Taking the Medicine – Before You Get Married
I (Rich) have high blood pressure but I am in constant denial. I take medicine, but deep in my soul I believe that I don’t need it. I will drop ...











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