The Real Wedding

Marriage is something I think about often. It’s my passion, and I spend most of my time working hard at helping others prepare for and improve their marriages as well as working hard at maintaining and growing mine. Yet, I read a recent article that really caught my attention with its metaphorical parallel to weddings and our spiritual lives.

The Ultimate Wedding by Kimberly Wagner appeared on the True Woman blog. It started out discussing the intensity of wedding planning. As I read through it, I found myself nodding in agreement as I remembered my own wedding day planning process a few years ago – not for the faint of heart. Then the article took an unexpected turn.

Kimberly Wagner suddenly calls her readers’ attention to what she refers to as “The Ultimate Wedding.” She explains:

How does the fact that I will stand in my Savior’s presence as His chosen and purchased Bride affect my life today? How much thought do I give to His challenge to demonstrate love for Him through obedience to Him? Am I being intentional to prepare for His return by cultivating personal holiness? Am I being faithful to Him as I’m waiting?”

What a profound thought. I am constantly encouraging people who are single, dating, and/or engaged to prepare themselves for their future marriage, but I never thought of it in the context of my life as a Christian. Kimberly gives a “wedding prep list” to help guide us in our preparation for the ultimate wedding, and I loved the thought of that.

As we think about the amazing blessing that marriage is here on earth, it can be a powerful reminder of the ultimate wedding. Our lives here on earth are but a vapor, and one day we will meet our Savior face-to-face. Are we prepared? Are we ready?


Ashley McIlwain, M.A., is a Marriage and Family Therapist, speaker, and writer. She is the founder and C.E.O. of the non-profit organization, Foundation Restoration, and blog, which are comprehensive resources committed to restoring the very foundation of society - marriage. She is committed to and passionate about helping relationships thrive. Ashley holds a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Palm Beach Atlantic University and a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy from Azusa Pacific University. Ashley previously served as Managing Editor for where she helped launch and develop the website into a hub for premarital preparation. Currently she and her husband, Steve, reside in Southern California.

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