Letters to My Future Husband

Before I went off to college, finding a husband was always on my mind. I had shared that desire with a friend who was married and she suggested I start writing journal entries to him during the waiting process. It had helped her a lot.

I was all over her advice because I loved to write and reflect anyway. I had five spiral bound journals I’d written in since middle school. Yellow legal pads were always laying around our house, so I got one out and wrote my first entry on Dec. 16, 2001:

Hello ___________! As of tonight I’ve decided to write to you every once in a while. As you’ve figured out I am a very random girl and maybe you could say this is definitely random. However, it is also extremely special and I can’t wait to meet you one day. I’m committing myself to pray for you each day. I want to tell you where I am in life right now…

I went on to write about what God was doing in my life. I shared my hopes, desires, dreams, frustrations, and I prayed for patience in waiting on God. I prayed that God would keep us both pure while we waited on each other.

At first it was strange writing to someone I’d never met. And ultimately, I didn’t know God’s will. Would I ever get to meet the “husband” I was writing to? Or would it be a waste of time?

A Bold Prayer
The desire to be married burned wildly in my heart. I began to trust that God would answer my prayers so I wrote like crazy and I closed out the first entry with these words:

Thank you for motivating me to start this. You are my husband and I want to give you everything I can. You know how much I value writing and letters and to be able to just write this to you now is a blessing. Thank you for reading my heart.

As months passed by, I wrote about my struggles as I watched my closest friends have serious relationships. My roommate during all three years of college had graduated one year early to marry her husband.

My roommate my senior year of college had been dating her boyfriend for several years and they had a healthy, fun, God-centered relationship that inspired me. I was often the third wheel and never felt uncomfortable. I wanted a dating relationship just like theirs.

I’d dated guys here and there and liked one guy on and off for a very long time, but nothing ever worked out. I was also frustrated with the dating scene and being attracted to guys that weren’t necessarily marriage material.

I started to pray that God wouldn’t bring anyone into my life until I was ready for marriage. I knew it was a bold prayer. But I knew that if I trusted the Lord, he would honor my request.

From Nashville to Virginia
A few years passed by and in 2004, I graduated from college. That summer I lived in Nashville for a publishing internship. I was interested in a guy at church who seemed interested in me. I thought he could possibly be the one. He just didn’t know it yet! Oddly enough, a few weeks passed by and I never saw him at church again. I heard he was going to be out of town for most of the summer.

I remember giving God a few words that day:

I’m done. I need to be content in you and not worry about finding the one.

I meant this prayer with everything in me. I knew I had to be content in the reality that God’s plan might not be for me to marry. I had to be okay with whatever his plans were. My life was his. And his will was always right.

The very last week of my internship, after much wrestling with God and praying through what to do, I felt led to go to seminary. After praying through the many choices and seeking counsel, I went back to the seminary of the college I’d graduated from in Virginia.

It was like pulling teeth because I wanted to settle and make a life for myself in Nashville. But I trusted God’s leading and ended up getting a full scholarship. I knew it was God’s plan and that it would be an adventure. When it came to dating, I wanted nothing to do with it. I was content for once in my life!

Meeting Jeremiah
And little did I know that God’s ways are often not our ways. A few weeks into classes, a young man in my Church History class named Jeremiah asked me to go to lunch and from then on we were inseparable. He was the whole package I had prayed for. He loved the Lord and had a heart for people. He was even tall, dark, and handsome!

After having the “DTR” talk a month and a half later and Jeremiah asking my Dad for permission to date me, we courted for seven months. He popped the question at the Jordan River on a class trip and we were engaged for six long months. During the rush of planning our Christmas wedding, I continued to write him letters and one night I noticed something really special:

I found out an extremely ironic thing yesterday. The date I started writing journal entries to you was on Dec. 16, 2001. Can you believe that? One day from the date of our wedding. I would not say that was coincidence. I can’t wait to surprise you at the rehearsal dinner. I was going to surprise you on our honeymoon night but I was encouraged to surprise you in front of everyone. I love you.

Sure enough, that night arrived. Our wedding party, friends, and family all celebrated with us at a romantic Italian restaurant. After we ate the groom’s cake, I presented all four years of entries to Jeremiah in a small black and white treasure box, along with my True Love Waits card I had signed in high school. Everyone smiled and clapped. He was so surprised and tears welled up in his eyes.

I was so grateful for the four years of writing to Jeremiah because it helped me persevere through some of the hardest years of my life—singlehood. Presenting the box to him was not only a beautiful moment but it was a tangible reminder of God’s goodness and faithfulness in bringing the two of us together.

Today, almost six years later, the letters have moved everywhere we have. We keep the treasure box on the nightstand next to our bed. Every once in a while we read the entries out loud and reminisce together about our love. And we laugh. A whole lot!


Samantha Krieger is a pastor’s wife, mom, writer and editor in rural Colorado. Through story, personal experience, and biblical insight she is passionate about helping others live out their faith in everyday life and relationships. She has been writing for leading Christian books and magazines for over 12 years and holds a BA in English and Master’s in Religion. Samantha and her husband, Jeremiah, have been married for a decade and have four young children. Samantha writes candidly about marriage, motherhood, and faith at samanthakrieger.com

  • Kenny

    This is very inspiring especially for me at this moment…brings comfort to the soul.

    • I’m so glad Kenny!

      • Dayana Castillo

        you won’t even believe what I am about to say. I feel that my story is just like yours. A lot of coincidence. Back when I was a freshman (I am a senior now) I prayed to God about what he wanted me to do with my life. On that same night, I had a dream where I was in a bedroom getting ready to go to work and I saw my husband in the room looking for something. I never paid attention to the dream because I did not understand it and went and did my own things. I have dated 3 guys after that dream. I was never happy in those relationships. Last summer, I was very depressed because I was not in a happy relationship. I prayed to God and guess what I had another dream with a guy that looked like the dream I had when I was a Freshman and I was like OMG now I get it!! Things started to made sense and I broke up with my ex and organized my life. I was back on track ready to do God’s will for my life. It has not been easy because my ex continues to bother me. About three months ago I went to the store to buy school supplies. I saw a beautiful notebook and I bought it (not knowing what I was going to use it for). When I got home I heard God’s voice speaking to my heart saying that he wanted me to write a page everyday telling my husband how much I love him. I have been doing it for 3 months now. And I also bought a treasurer box (a lot of coincidence). Today I googled “letters to my future husband” just to check if that was a correct phrase (English is not my first language) and I came across your story. It is like a message from God telling me to be patient. Thank you! the other coincidence will be if my husband’s name will be Jeremiah just like your husband’s. Way before I read your story I have being thinking about when should I give him the dairy I thought about giving it to him on our wedding day. I will do it because you did it that way.

      • Samantha

        I am so happy you Wrote this ! I am so ready to commit my life to my future husband I daydream every night I am waiting for marriage to have sex and I have finally stopped looking for a man to complete me God is the center of my life I get closer and closer to him each day… This is just what I need to help me keep my focus off of men and looking for my husband I will write to him 🙂 Thanks very much Samantha Y

  • Great Read! Thanks for the encouragement. sarita D

  • JEShia

    Thank you for sharing your story! Ü
    I too have been writing letters, cards, composing poems for my future mate ever since I was a baby CHRISTian and indeed doing so helps a lot specially when it comes to unloading my emotions and struggles to GOD. I feel prompted to share one of my poems and I hope it’s okay. =D
    It is my prayer that through this poem, many would be encouraged to wait upon the LORD’s perfect timing when it comes to relationships. Here it is:


    Last week, I was in a very interesting conversation with one of my C5. In the middle of our discussion, the LORD faithfully reminded me of a certain poem I wrote 9 years ago.Bahtutay, here it is. As promised. Ü

    October 14, 2002

    To my future husband:

    GOD has led my thoughts to you tonight, or this morning rather for it is already 12:10 of dawn.

    Is it possible?

    I miss someone I’ve never met

    Is it real?

    I love someone I haven’t known yet

    Could it be true?

    That our love will be fated

    Would you believe?

    You’re the one I have patiently waited

    Will you trust Him?

    To time things perfectly

    Will you rest in Him?

    Please wait for me…

  • Lindsay

    This is really sweet, Samantha. What a special gift for your husband!

  • Kylie

    This is so inspirational! I am going to do that too! God bless you!

  • Thanks so much. It’s been a lot of fun and we thank the Lord!

  • I started mine when I was thirteen, and was able to present it to my now-husband almost two decades later during the veiling ceremony of our wedding. After the emotional twists and turns of single life in which every other guy was a “mabye The One,” and multiple broken hearts, it was such a triumph and source of healing to know that I had reserved this part of myself exclusively for him. Yes, we were both virgins when we married, but sometimes you can give away so many pieces of your heart that you still feel irreparably fragmented coming into marriage. Having my husband-journal, and knowing that no other human had seen inside of it made it seem that much more that I was giving him all of me. God is so good, and it was so worth the wait!

    • that’s amazing Chrystal- such a powerful story. You were wise beyond your years to have started at 13. I was so caught up in “boys” that I wasn’t thinking about my husband at that age..lol

      “sometimes you can give away so many pieces of your heart that you still feel irreparably fragmented coming into marriage.” – agree 100% because the emotional side can be just as heavy. Looks like you need to write up your story in detail?!

      Thanks for sharing!

  • Hi Samantha!
    My name is Reese and I have been following your blog for awhile. I found your blog because you commented on one of my blog posts. A blog post I wrote about attending A Dallas “Right Now” Conference, 2009 I think. 🙂 I just recently moved back to my homestate of Oklahoma, from Dallas. I am a pre-nursing student in a full-time banking career. Your post today titled “Letters to my future husband” inspired me. I have seldom thought about writing to “him,” but, the fear of what if I do not ever get married stops me every time. I think those letters, from the box, might mock me every time I see or walk by the box, If I remain single forever. 🙂 Or, they might not. I think I will just write one letter, and go from there.

    Have a Blessed Weekend.

    • thank you Reese. I really appreciate your thoughts. Your points are right on and I think it’s totally up to you and I also think it’s worth the risk. Starting one letter and seeing how it goes seems like a good plan.

      I definitely understand the box “mocking you”… but who knows years from now what your thoughts will be when you read them- whether you’re single or married.

  • Melissa Brothers

    Words cannot express the joy I felt reading this! You girls have always been so special to me. Those words of wisdom were given to me by my grandmother when I was 12 years old. Ever since I shared that with you girls, I have shared that with every girl that has darkened the doors of that church since we moved. I still to this day, receive emails, calls from them telling me that they took my challenge. What a blessing! God has blessed them all for putting HIS WILL first! It was a hard lesson to learn but, so worth it in the end!

  • What a BEAUTIFUL article and testimony! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Oh, how beautiful! I can hardly wait a few years to present your idea to my daughters. Your story of God’s working and your heart while waiting is so powerful. Thank you, Samantha

  • Adeline

    I would just like to say thank you for your wonderful article.
    I’m currently 17 and in my last year of high school. I truly believe that most people my age have come to a point where they prefer to compromise for a mate or choose whomever comes the front door. Although I have never had a boyfriend like my friends suggest I MUST have, I trust God will allow me to one day meet a man who fears the Lord.
    I will be moving out to college next year and always wanted to start the habit of writing; but I’m not to sure where to start. Keeping a journal with me will help during my single hood in college and understand that I must first seek God before even considering a husband.
    Once again thank you 🙂

  • Adeline- thank you for your kind words. I am so glad it was an encouragement to you. I love how you said “I trust God will allow me to one day meet a man who fears the Lord.”

    That’s exactly what you should be waiting for. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you out of God’s timing. I’m so glad you’re going to start the habit of writing. I don’t think you’ll regret it. Blessings to you as you prepare for an exciting journey in college.


  • eleojo opaluwa

    Thank you so much samantha for sharing…i wrote a letter to my future husband a few years ago but you inspired something in me today again after reading “lletters to my future husband”and I’m gonna write him some more letters. Thank you. Elly

  • Kiersten

    Thank you SO much for such a wonderful article. I am a twenty-year-old sophomore in college and sometimes I feel as though I’ll never meet the right guy. My desire to be married is so strong and I find myself constantly begging God to give me a husband (or at least a prospect). A good friend of mine recently told me “The Lord knows your story, He wrote it. If you’re meant to be married, you will be married. If not, He will change the desires of your heart so that you can be happy as a single woman.” This was very encouraging to me because I believe it to be true. However, just in case a husband is in the cards for me (as I sincerely hope he is), I began a blog for him. I have written a few letters over the years, but blogging just fits my personality better. I thought that including pictures, letters, quotes, and encouraging videos, I can leave him with lots of information about myself and my growing love for him that I may forget. Thank you so much for posting such an encouraging story, it’s definitely helping me out and letting me know that there are other people out there who think about their husbands as much as I already do 🙂

    • you’re welcome. blogging is a great idea too!

  • Liz Smile

    It’s beautiful and inspirational! Is such a blessing for me! 🙂

  • karenhope

    teary eyes 🙂

  • Ashley Lewis

    Last night for some reason I decided that I was going to write a letter to my future husband. Im 20 and at the moment I am not dating anyone but I just felt that It was something that I had to do. After I had finished writing my letter I came across your article and was happy to notice I was not the only one that has done somethng like this. Your journal idea has inspired me to start my own. Today was my first entry to my husband. I just know that God will provide me with someone that is loving, kind and most of all someone that has a deep Love for Him. I’ve decided that in my waiting period I will become closer to God (before I was bouncing back and forth but I realised I cant serve two masters) so that I can be an assest to my husbands walk with Christ and love him like christ loves the church.

    God bless you and your family.

  • “I just felt it was something that I had to do…” That’s how it was for me as well. You can’t go wrong doing everything you can to be come closer to God in the waiting period. I am glad our story could encourage you 🙂

  • Just a reminder, but it’s not just the ladies that write to their future brides beforehand…you can find them by searching for “Letters to Luthien”.

  • Cintoria

    When I read the book “Praying for Your Future Husband.” It mentioned writing letters to your FH. This inspired me to do the same. After awhile I felt so embarrassed because I thought it was silly to write a letter to someone you never met before. Then after awhile I started to pray to God asking him to protect my future husband and some other encouraging stuff for my FH. It’s funny because I thought well if I can pray for my FH I can write to him, but in a way I still felt embarrassed. I was internet surfing today like I usually do and I typed in “My Future Husband” And your article came up (Usually I skimmed through articles like yours, but somehow this really spoke to me. This morning I just prayed a really bold prayer to God. I asked on my Birthday today could he let me meet my FH today or sometime this week or next week if it’s in his will. After reading your story you gave me a different outlook on things. Your story has inspired me to actually want to write letters to my FH and most of all have a little more patience in God. Today’s my birthday and I plan to start up my first letter on my special day. 🙂

  • Lacie

    Remarkable and beautiful story!! I want the same for my daughters and even sons. I seek to have a God-centered marriage. I am 20 and though I never wrote letters to my future husband I prayed. I had some unhealthy relationships in the past but it never stopped me from seeking a man who will love me for me and will treat me with respect. I believe God answered my prayers because I have a man whos 25 and undeniably treats me with respect and loves me unconditionally. He’s the whole package I was wanting!! And I never knew when or how he was going to come into my life or if he was the one. (used to be good friends) 🙂 He’s been such a blessing and he is bringing me closer to God. I been struggling with expressing the same love I want to give and he deserves. I want to give him the same blessing from me and not some other woman, I mean he truly is a catch but he is mine. Lol. I am doing everything I can think of at this moment to save us and our marriage before it starts. I’ve been rude and disrespectful to him; he calls it “hen-picking.” Cause it’s great for awhile but then I snap at him for something dumb. I sometimes get annoyed with him for being sweet to me. WHY??? This is what I wanted. I know we’ve been through so much together and there has been many tears shed (mostly me cause I hate treating him bad) but I want to keep us together and my heart TRULY seeks and desires God to be the force driving it.

    • thank you Lacie. Sounds like you have found a good catch 🙂

  • Ainsley

    Melted my heart, and encouraged it. I started this a year ago, and kept them in a Hope box that I keep all my lovely things in. I had written around 3-4, but ripped them up in a tearful rage after reading them again a few months later. Looks like its time for a restart. 🙂 Thank you.

  • Wardah

    It was written very nice.IT”s really a nice idea to write something which is in our heart.i know that whatever u have written is the words of ur heart bcoz a mind can think very wisely but not so beautifully…..

  • Katie

    This is really amazing and encouraging. I’m only 15 and I’m obviously not looking for a husband right now, but this is definitely something that I plan on doing. In high school it seems like everything is about dating. I have his rib inside of me, and he’s the only one for me. My relationship with God has gotten stronger this past year and I’m learning that my timing is actually God’s timing.

  • thanks for sharing Katie.

  • Kaity

    What an inspiring story! I’ve been writing letters to my future husband since I was 13, I’m currently 19 and have never had a boyfriend. Hard to believe, right? Well, it’s completely true. And I love it! I want my future husband to be the only guy I’m ever romantically involved with. I’ve had to turn down a lot of dates because I really want the guy I marry to be passionately in love with the Lord. Which is rare, I realize. But I’m willing to wait for that. It’s totally not easy sometimes and it’s not that I love waiting – it stinks most of the time – but I really love the person I’m waiting for. And that takes a lot of trust that God will write my love story in His time and way. And I know it will be more beautiful than anything I could’ve come up with! 🙂 For everyone who is struggling with singleness – stay strong in the Lord and delight in Him and He will bring you the desires of your heart! <3

    • Love your words. Keep seeking the Lord and you’ll never go wrong.

  • Anne

    Hi thanks for sharing. God bless.

    I needed this today 🙂

  • I Love this Samantha! 🙂 May God bless u even The more! This is inspiring <3 🙂

  • Nadia F.

    Wow I really needed confirmation on whether I should start writing letters to my future husband:) God has been speaking to me on writing letters for him. Thank you for writing this blog on your testimony,it is really inspiring. It really made things clear to me as a young christian women. It also spoke into my life .God Bless you 😀


    Dear Brethren,
    I have written numerous letters to God about multiple issues in life and I can testify each of them were answered with a YES and AMEN. I have never thought of writing a letter to my imaginary husband but now I am more than persuaded that I should not have left it out. That’s our God who sees and discerns the secret desires of our hearts. Right now above all else is a petition for my husband. I have been single for 53 years and I don’t think I can continue with this misery and loneliness. I am calling my Daddy to have a God speed release of my husband. I belief that soon and very soon, I will be testifying of a major breakthrough in this. Amen

  • Jordan


    I am 13 and I have decided to write letters to my future husband.
    but do you have any ideas about starting them? Thanks!!

    JMJ Jordan

  • laura

    after reading this it inspired me. I’ll be getting married January 31st 2013 and I wanted something to do for my future husband something that he will cherish and I know he would read. This has opened my eyes to being able to show my true feelings and all the struggles that i have gone through during the day.we have both been through a lot in the past two years his brother was in a very severe car accident and devin was there with him so that has impacted our relationship but it has brought us so much closer and believing in God and knowing that he’s looking out for us his brother has a lot of cognitive and other numerous limitations.he has lost his sight from the accident he can barely feed himself but it is a blessing that he is still with us and he will be able to be with us at the wedding. My mom also was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm and she had open brain surgery and have also been recovering from that but through every single thing devin and I have gone through he has been by my side just I have been by has. I night cry because I feel like I can never fix what happen with our families but I know that the bond we have me it has helped us grow and be closer to God..We live in separate houses I live with my parents and he was on his own house and we are keeping it very traditional until we do get married and I feel like this will be the best gift. I plan on starting to write this starting this January 31st to mark the countdown until our wedding thank you so much for sharing your story here online!

  • Thank you for reading, Laura. God will bless your decision to do it the right way! I guess today is Jan 31! I’m so glad you are going to start writing them!

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  • Breanna Hendershot

    This is so incredibly encouraging to read! I’m a freshman at a Christian college where the pressure to find “the one” is intense. I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I’ve always said I want to marry my first. However, being single is not always easy and there are many times (as I like to say) I miss my hubby. I have been writing him since my freshman year of high school. When I am really missing him, I find so much comfort in writing him and praying for him and I. I also love writing goofy and sweet things I just really want to tell him 🙂 I cannot wait to give him his box of notes one day.

  • Laura

    This post has encouraged me so much. I do find that writing letters has encouraged me and helped me in my singlehood as well. It makes God’s promises real to me because I have faith that there is someone out there for me but it just may not be the right time. Like you I need to stop trying to search everywhere for a husband and just give it to God.

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