These eggs are really underdone.”
I uttered these words to my husband who had just cooked me breakfast. This sweet, handsome man had just prepared food for me…and I told him he did it wrong.
I must admit that I am quite picky about the texture of my scrambled eggs. I want them to be nearly completely dry, while James likes his quite shiny (barf).
While he was under-cooking my eggs, I had been over-cooking his.
Isn’t this just like marriage though? We come in with so many different egg-spectations (sorry I couldn’t help myself). But in all seriousness, when joining two completely different people together things are bound to become scrambled (ok, that was the last one, I promise).
I had fully expected that James would be a loving husband, a great father, and my confidant. But I had not expected that I would be so judgmental about him. I found myself wanting to criticize him about the way he vacuumed, or loaded the dishwasher, or even brushed his teeth.
Some of our biggest arguments have come from having opposing expectations of each other. Where to spend the holidays, or when to have children, or how much to tithe, or even what to watch on TV.
A lot of couples will begin to see differing opinions right after they get married. You are now living together, sharing finances, and everything else. It is so important to remember that these things are hard. You are two individuals becoming one person. It’s not as natural as you would think. While God intended marriage to be beautiful, he never said it was easy. Unity is difficult, but worth the fight. God designed marriage to reflect his love for his people. When we are choose to work through the hard times, we get to see a glimpse of God’s love for us through our spouse.
So after you get married and you realize that you both expected to always sleep on the left side of the bed, don’t freak out. You can work it out together, because it is worth it.