I was having a tough day.
It was just a day where my emotions were feeling raw. I was frustrated and discouraged over some thing and the tears came quickly to my eyes all day. And I mean alllll day!
I tried to put on a brave face and not act wimpy. I didn’t want to have a pity party and I didn’t want my kiddos to look at me in “that way.” But still, I was struggling.
And my husband could see it.
So what did he do?
He took me out to dinner.
He took me out to dinner so we could talk. So he could get a feel for my heart. And in the process, I got a feel for his. And the communication was needed.
I felt better after our dinner even though I teared up and cried several times during it. But I felt better for unleashing some of the things I was locking away inside of my heart.
It takes an intuitive spouse to see that sometimes you just need to be scooped up and removed from your day for a little while. Sometimes you just need someone to listen. Sometimes sharing is what matters most…not the laundry, the housework, or the dishes.
We didn’t solve anything that night. But I felt loved. And that was exactly what I needed to feel. I needed to know someone cared.
I heard some things I needed to hear from my husband, as well. Perspective can be everything sometimes! But in a moment where there was an awkward wedge between us due to emotions; in the end, there was more closeness and love. All because of a dinner. All because my husband saw me hurting and chose not to ignore it.
Those are the moments in our life where we have a choice. We can do something to grow closer in that moment, or we can allow distance to grow and spread between us. Which one will you choose when your spouse is struggling? For struggle, they will. On some day, at some hour.
Can I recommend something? Try dinner. Try a table for two where you have to look at each other. Try listening.
It does wonders.