Before you decide to get married think about getting divorced and all the ramifications that divorce brings.
Think about the enormous commitment you are making!
If you are already married and are contemplating divorce then take into consideration how God views divorce. Don’t listen to what the ‘world’ has to say. Too many children are growing up in families that have been split in two. Too many adults are re-marrying because their first or second or third marriage didn’t ‘work’ out.
- The world says – Life is too short to spend it unhappily married
God says – Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5)
- The world says – Love yourself, be happy
God says – Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. (John 13:34)
- The world says – Divorce is not such a big issue
God says – I hate divorce. (Malachi 2:16)
R.C. Sproul puts it like this:
“A married person does not live in isolation. He or she has made a promise, a pledge, a vow, to another person. Until that vow is fulfilled and the promise is kept, the individual is in debt to his marriage partner. That is what he owes. “You owe it to yourself” is not a valid excuse for breaking a marriage vow but a creed of selfishness.”
Too many Christian marriages today are ending in divorce because the ‘world’ says it is acceptable. Not only is it acceptable, it is becoming more and more the norm for Christian marriages.
My parents got divorced in 1972. In a school of over five hundred children, only two families were getting divorced that year – our family and one other.
We have three daughters, two of whom are finished with their school careers. None of our three children have ever been in a school class where there has not been at least one child from a divorced family and sometimes there have been up to five children in a class of 30 who came from divorced families. Quite a few of these families have been believing, church going Christians. How is this possible?
Is it because we, as a church, are too quick to judge and couples are scared to admit that they have major issues in their marriage?
Or because we, as a church, are too busy with our own lives that we do not have time to spend with couples who are struggling?
Maybe it is because we as a church are not teaching God’s word and His truth about Godly marriage.
And maybe it is because we as the church do not commit to praying/interceding for marriages.
If you and your partner are believing followers of Christ, imprint this on your hearts and your minds – once married, divorce should not be an option.
“God intends and expects marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.” ~ John C. Broger