How to Edit Your Marriage Frequently

Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly.  It’s your masterpiece after all.   (Nathan W. Morris)

 A masterpiece is something incredibly good — the best example of something. That is what marriage should be — an incredible example of something good.

Marriage is like a book.  It has many different pages, and you start writing the book together as soon as the marriage vows are spoken. One bad chapter in the marriage doesn’t mean it’s the end.  There are still many blank pages that you can write on.

Even if pages are ripped out of the book, the book itself remains and can still be written in. It is the same with marriage.  Even though there may be some painful and horrific times in your relationship with your spouse you can still change the end of the book for good.

We hopefully are only going to have one marriage in our lives.  Why not make that marriage a masterpiece through frequent editing and revaluing?  Below is my personalized marriage version of what the Oxford Dictionary defines EDIT as:


  1. to prepare your marriage for publication by checking and improving the accuracy and clarity of how you are living.
  1. to be in charge of your marriage
  2. to prepare your marriage by rearranging, selecting, or rejecting previous ways of living
  1. to modify your marriage by, for example, deleting, inserting or moving certain aspects of your marriage, or by copying the behavior of people who are in marriages that you admire
  1. to remove incorrect or unwanted behavior or matter from your marriage

…put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:22-24)

 Edit your marriage frequently!

 Mother Theresa once said:“I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world”

 Imagine that you are a love letter from God to your spouse.

Every night before going to sleep take a journal and a pen and edit your marriage in the light of God’s Word. And every morning upon waking, take a few minutes to remind yourself that you are a love letter from God to your spouse.  Think about what you want to write and during the day, stop and do a few edits to what you have ‘written’ so far in the letter.

Always remember, you are a precious child of God and you can call on Him at any time – day or night – to ask for His help in editing your letter to your spouse.

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Noelene Curry lives in Cape Town, South Africa with her Irish husband, three daughters, one dog and two rabbits. Noelene is a public speaker and author of God’s Promise for Families and All God's Stones. Her passion in life is for couples, not just to stay married, but to be happily married. She loves reading, walking, traveling and bush camping. You'll find Noelene writing about God’s redeeming love and His ability to restore people and relationships at

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