Q: The man of my dreams—the man I’m marrying—just told me he doesn’t want to have kids. I’m devastated. What does one do?
A (Gary Chapman): I would say you need to slow down the process. If you want to have children and he is determined not to have children, to me that could be a deal breaker. I know that’s hard but to go into marriage with a strong difference on this topic sets yourself up for failure. I would say slow down the process; you need to have more time together to explore life with each other in a deeper way. You may find that there are other things on which you disagree. If you haven’t worked through my book, Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, I’d suggest that would be a good place to start.