Opposites Attract Us to Sanctification

It was 6:32 AM and I was on my way to work, thanking God for my husband. This is not a rare thing, I thank God for my husband often, but the words I spoke were probably ones that are not heard often. I thank Him for giving me MY husband, even though He could’ve given me someone who was just like me.

We were not made to be carbon copies of one another in marriage. As believers, we are to be equally yoked, but we typically choose someone with a personality that is not like us. We are not meant to think the same thoughts, say the same things, or be the same person. We are meant to bring balance when we unite in marriage.

If we were exact copies of one another, how would we ever learn to see beyond our own opinions? Instead of getting caught up in all the differences, how much better it would be if we saw those differences as blessings that grow us and sharpen us.

Being with someone unlike yourself forces you to realize many things. An opposite personality pushes you to be your best. You need someone unlike yourself to stretch you and keep you open to the sanctifying work God has in store for you. When you are with your opposite, you have the ability to be challenged. There would be no learning without opposition. The Lord puts us with who we are with for a reason.

The goal is always the same for each and every God fearing couple: we are called to walk with and challenge each other. At the end of this life, I want to be able to stand before the Lord and boldly tell him that I followed him. These differences somehow created the most challenging and beautiful part of my sanctification. And I will thank the Lord because He truly knows what He’s doing.


Ana is currently an English major, recently married to her wonderful husband, Malik! She is passionate about woman's ministry and hopes to inspire and encourage women to grow in the Lord and become all He desires for them to be. She feels called to writing and sharing her experiences on her journey with the Lord.

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