More and more often I hear people say they are concerned about finding a spouse. It as though they imagine an expiration date printed on their foreheads announcing to the world that, if not selected soon, they will be tossed in the trash like a half-used carton of eggs. People everywhere seem to be in a panic to find a suitor as though there is a ticking time bomb strapped to their waists.
While I am not minimizing the significance of finding a spouse, I am calling for a nationwide deep breath. Feeling calmer already? Good—because there is no need to panic.
Obviously, there is an array of factors that play into finding a spouse. It can definitely be frustrating to search unsuccessfully for that special someone to team up and face life head on with. Putting yourself out there in healthy, constructive ways is all well and good, but sometimes there is an element that we forget to account for – God.
God is the ultimate matchmaker! He has someone out there for you, but you need to “wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:14). Allowing your haste and fear to motivate you to settle for “Mr. Right Now” instead of “Mr. Right” can steal the blessing of marriage right out from underneath you.
Recently I stumbled upon a great article that should be encouraging to those of you who are in that holding pattern. It is about the Christian singer, songwriter, musician, author, actor and sexual abstinence advocate Rebecca St. James. At the age of 33, she has announced her engagement to future husband, Jacob Fink.
The Boundless Line article by Lisa Anderson shares how this story is so touching and encouraging:
We are truly amazed at finding our dreams and ideals met in the love we’ve found,” Rebecca stated. “We are exceedingly grateful for this precious gift from God.”
Rebecca gave a generation of young adults (especially young women) an anthem when in 2000 she wrote “Wait For Me,” a pledge to purity and a public commitment to trust God with her own relationship story. For many of us girls, knowing RSJ was “in the fray” with us was comforting, a show of solidarity that made the Sisterhood of Waiting a more bearable place to be.
To read this entire article, click here.
